Sex Therapy
"The day you were born, the world had a choice about what to teach you about your body. It could have taught you to live with confidence and joy inside your body...But instead, the world taught you to feel critical of and dissatisfied with your sexuality and your body. You were taught to value and expect something from your sexuality that does not match what your sexuality actually is. You were told a story about what would happen in your sexual life, and that story was false."
-Emily Nagoski, Come As You Are
Expert Sex Therapy in Los Angeles
Learn to talk about sexual desires, needs, feelings and issues to foster intimate, healthy relationships with partners
What is sex therapy?
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Many people have a hard time talking about sex in a direct and authentic manner. Our culture is inundated with sexualized marketing campaigns, expectations and social pressure. But rarely do people learn how to discuss sex in the context of attachment and intimacy. Not talking about one’s sexual desires, needs, feelings and issues with sex, prevents people from having intimate, healthy relationships with partners. Sex Therapy never includes touch (or any kind of sex) between the therapist and the client.
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More than a sex therapist
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A sex therapist is a psychotherapist who holds specialized training in issues related to sex, sexuality, and relationships. However, you do not only discuss sex during sessions. One’s sex life does not exist in a vacuum! The therapists at Los Feliz Psychotherapy are trained to discuss how sexuality is impacted by upbringing and family dynamics, our physical bodies, the culture and many other factors. We may talk about sex but we are also your therapist, and can talk about everything going on in your world.
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Addressing a variety of sex-related issues
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Sex therapy can help to address a variety of issues - desire discrepancies within a couple, wanting to deepen emotional and sexual intimacy, difficulties with climaxing, starting your journey of queer sex and love, socio-cultural factors associated with sexuality, open relationships, opening up, infidelity and a breach of trust, diversity of sexual expression, cybersexuality, sexual trauma, abuse and rape, sexual dysfunction such as difficulty establishing or maintaining an erection and painful sex, and more.
Sex 101
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Half of women report experiencing sexual challenges some time in their lives; 30% of men report sexual challenges
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The most common sexual challenge for women is low sex drive
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The most common sexual challenge reported by men is erectile dysfunction and eager ejaculation
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The average length until orgasm for men is 4-6 minutes
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Average length of orgasm for women is 20 minutes
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The brain is your friend when it comes to sex — turn-ons happen in the mind!
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The most common cause of pain during sex is missing lubrication
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75%+ of women rarely or never orgasm with intercourse
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A majority of women reach orgasm with clitoral stimulation
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How you grew up, what messages you received about sex and your body, are going to form your belief system - negative perceptions about yourself and your sexuality come from the culture and environment that you grew up in
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According to the Kinsey Institute’s 2010 National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, people ages 14 to 94 years old, all ages masterbate. Most women reported masterbating once per week, or every two weeks. 20% of men reported masterbating 2 to 3 times per week